Stories with Hope
Everyone has a life story. Every story is unique.
However, stories have a predictable plot line just like a worthwhile novel that cannot be put down; like that great book that begs to be read. This is the story of someone longing to be heard and seen.
It begins with experiences (usually from childhood and adolescence) that have led to conflicts of varying proportions where wounds were inflicted. The protagonist’s natural development is deeply affected and thwarted in some fashion leading up to a pivotal point. From that climactic event or events, the hero is swept along often without will. It is during this critical portion of his or her story that misperceptions about self and others occurs. Understandable and logical– yet false–conclusions are drawn by the wounded hero that incorrectly whisper, “I am not worthy, I am not enough.” This false narrative can halt growth and maturity and forces the protagonist to carve out a different path other than the one they would have chosen for themselves had those events not taken place. It seems as if the story abruptly stops without a happy ending.
What is missing (and where Onsite enters the story) is a beautiful dénouement in which the conflict can be resolved. The storyline is then re‐written with the caring and empathic assistance of others sitting alongside them in the circle who have been raptly attentive. Because we can all relate to one another as humans, those listening in the supportive circle are now fully engaged; they become active participants in the story, not just passive listeners. The circle family can stand in for the good and bad actors and actresses in another person’s narrative to help them reconstruct their life story with a healthier outcome. The hero can finally complete the unresolved chapters, leaving behind the misperceptions and inaccurate conclusions about themselves. The happy ending? Renewed hope, reclaimed self‐worth, and a restored life‐purpose for the re‐energized hero or heroine to embrace a life worth living to the fullest.